If you’re a “nice guy” to a girl up until you realize she doesn’t want to date you, then go on about how she’s a cold shrew that friendzoned you and how no girls date nice guys, like, nah mate, girls do date nice guys. You just aren’t a nice guy. You’re a passive aggressive beta with internalized misogyny and a serious victim complex.
What Happens Next: A Gallimaufry: Lamenting The Friend Zone, Or: The “Nice Guy” Approach To Perpetrating Sexist Bullshit
Everyone’s heard of friendzoning – even if they don’t know the word, they sure as hell know the concept. It’s what happens time and again to unfortunate Nice Guys who, despite being nothing but sugar and spice to the girls they love, are nonetheless denied the sexual relationships they so…
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(Reblogged from sexisnottheenemy)
Our culture expects women’s – and men’s – bodies to be a certain way. People are very invested in the idea that Men Look Like This and Women Look Like That and Never the Twain Shall Meet. Well, guess what? Nature doesn’t give a fuck about your sexual binary. Nature puts us together in a million different ways – actually, about seven billion, give or take a few hundred thousand – and a lot of us are going to walk that imaginary line. There are going to be short, hairless men with high voices and tall women with deep voices and people who are intersexed in a bunch of different ways, and here’s the great thing – it’s all okay. Every single one of us. There’s not a thing wrong with any of us.
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(Reblogged from sexisnottheenemy)
Yes, we live in a sexist culture, in which women have no good choices when it comes to our bodies. We live in a sexist culture in which women are valued primarily as sexual objects, and at the same time are shamed for our sexuality. It seems to me that we have two choices as to how to respond to this. We can try to navigate the narrow, essentially impossible shoals of these contradictory expectations, and try to find that perfect, socially acceptable line between slut and prude.
Or we can say, “Fuck it. There is no way I can win — so I’m going to do whatever the fuck I want. I’m going to wear overalls, or I’m going to wear high heels. I’m going to have sex with twenty strangers in a night, or I’m not going to have sex with anyone. I’m going to dress conservatively and professionally in public at all times, or I’m going to sell naked pictures of myself on the Internet if I bloody well feel like it.”
And in saying, “I can’t win, so I’m going to do whatever the fuck I want to do,” we can create the beginnings of a victory. We can create the beginnings of a world where we really can win. We can create the beginnings of a world where we’re a little more free than the women who came before us… and where the women who come after us are a little more free than we are. We probably can’t create a perfect world, where women’s bodies aren’t commodified in the slightest (not in this generation, anyway). But we can create a better world: a world where women’s bodies and minds belong less to the patriarchy, and more to ourselves.
Or we can say, “Fuck it. There is no way I can win — so I’m going to do whatever the fuck I want. I’m going to wear overalls, or I’m going to wear high heels. I’m going to have sex with twenty strangers in a night, or I’m not going to have sex with anyone. I’m going to dress conservatively and professionally in public at all times, or I’m going to sell naked pictures of myself on the Internet if I bloody well feel like it.”
And in saying, “I can’t win, so I’m going to do whatever the fuck I want to do,” we can create the beginnings of a victory. We can create the beginnings of a world where we really can win. We can create the beginnings of a world where we’re a little more free than the women who came before us… and where the women who come after us are a little more free than we are. We probably can’t create a perfect world, where women’s bodies aren’t commodified in the slightest (not in this generation, anyway). But we can create a better world: a world where women’s bodies and minds belong less to the patriarchy, and more to ourselves.
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(Reblogged from hiddenmidden)
The rallying cry of privileged whites whenever a person of color voices their concern or discomfort with their community’s portrayal in the media is usually along the lines of “You’re a crybaby.” But aren’t these same people doing just that? Crying over the fact that someone actually forced them to think about race in their otherwise colorblind day? It’s been said a million times before but it bears repeating that it’s significantly easier for white people in America and Europe not to think about race being that all aspects of Western culture take whiteness as the given norm. You’re upset that you’ve been made to feel uncomfortable because of your race? Join the club.
Vic of Das Racist on Trayvon, blackface, and so-called post-raciality.
I just want to pre-emptively say “I see you” to all the white supremacist anti-intellectual hipsterfucks who unfollowed and shit-talked me when I went off about Girls and cultural representation and ranted about Trayvon’s death for a whole fucking month. I fucking see you guys. You’re going to reblog Heems’ post (written by Vic)— more than likely from the Vice Tumblr (run by a super affable, smart person who fucking gets it unlike you apathetic scoundrels)— for a bunch of reasons which have nothing to do with actually giving a fuck about racism and everything to do with a) looking like you understand this, b) cloaking yourself in the warmness of cultural relevance (Das Racist is so cool because Vice and Pitchfork say they’re cool, right?) to assuage your white guilt for a moment, and c) because you’re fucking stupid. I see you and DR sees you, too. That’s why Das Racist will continue making fun of white people at their concerts because they don’t want hipster racists dickriding them to make themselves look cool. You can’t apologize for hipster racists like Gavin McCinnes, Lesley Arfin and Kelly McClure and be a fan of Das Racist.
(via fatwasandfanboys)
Glamour Magazine Body Size Stereotypes Survey:
What the Glamour Magazine poll shows about the assumptions women hold
Heavy women are pegged as…
“lazy” 11 times as often as thin women; “sloppy” nine times; “undisciplined” seven times; “slow” six times as often.
While thin women are seen as…
“conceited” or “superficial” about eight times as often as heavy women; “vain” or “self-centered” four times as often; and “bitchy,” “mean,” or “controlling” more than twice as often.
Even the “good” labels are unfair.
An overweight woman may be five times as likely to be perceived as “giving” as a skinny one. “But it just fits into the stereotype that thin women are not that way,” explains Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. “It’s still putting women in a box based on their body size.”
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This is so interesting… and really sad. The fact that heavy women ALSO judge heavy women and thin women judge other thin women is so disheartening.
Hopefully places like Stop Hating Your Body can help change this even a little bit at a time…
(click on the image for the entire article, it is worth the read!)
It’s very interesting that the article is about stereotypes, and yet both the women shown here, while their body sizes are different, are both white, blonde, and what the media would like to push as being ideally ‘beautiful’.
That being said, however, the article does make a good point. People are far too eager to place people in a box strictly on what the shape of their body, and it’s not okay. The only way to change is to question what you’re made to think, and why.
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Body shaming is never okay.
Fillydelphia: auxil: There have been brony issues here and there and everywhere...
There have been brony issues here and there and everywhere lately so lemme lay down a few things about the issues here.
My name is Nathan, I am 18 years old, and I watch My Little Pony. I wouldn’t consider myself a brony because I have no interest in the fandom. Now I’m not one for…
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(Reblogged from saccharinescorpion)
Advice for young feminists? Do something else besides feminism. I’m serious. The feminist blogosphere is oversaturated in my opinion. Please, find something else you love and take feminist theory there. It gets lonely over here in tech and video games – I have a great crew of other feminists but we are a little island in a vast sea. We need more feminist minded business bloggers, feminist theory wielding finance bloggers. Labor organizers with a feminist lens blogging. Can you imagine what Deadspin (the sports blog) would look like with a feminist on staff? Restructure writes about science, tech and feminism – join her! Publish a blog doing literary criticism with a feminist lens! Take on the NYT! Talk about class issues and feminism. Whatever it is, apply your feminism in a different space.
Latoya Peterson (Source) (via andcouldheplayblog)
this is the quote I mentioned in my earlier work-thoughts dump. at least i think it is.
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apply your feminism in a different space
rinse & repeat
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good words
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(Reblogged from hiddenmidden)
The only reason “coming out” is still even a thing is because it’s presumed that people are straight until they tell us otherwise. “The Other must identify itself, or else it is decieving us” is a fucked up, dangerous idea.
Anon (via victor-the-richter)
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(Reblogged from hiddenmidden)
I guess I never caught that bug where you’re only supposed to care about your own country or your own local area. To me, 49 decapitated Mexicans is just as bad as 49 decapitated Americans and I know if there were 49 decapitated Americans in the street anywhere in the country, it would be like 9/11 all over again. It would be the largest news story for years - if it just happened once - but it happens time and time again in Mexico… and I guess as long as Americans aren’t getting decapitated, apparently the rest of the country, and especially our media, couldn’t give a damn and that’s part of what’s sick and wrong with this country’s media. And so, we march on as if nothing is wrong, as if everything is hunky dory, as if the war on drugs makes sense and hasn’t created these grotesque gangs that grow larger and more grotesque by the day - and it’s not because of the drugs. It’s because the drugs are illegal.
Cenk Uygur, on the 49 decapitated bodies recently found in Mexico
This quote captures my anger at how the media usually report overseas disasters: OMG 7 NEW ZEALANDERS DIED IN THE BOXING DAY TSUNAMI WHO CARES ABOUT THE HALF MILLION ASIAN PEOPLE WHEN WHITE PEOPLE WERE INVOLVED.
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